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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tap OUT [/quote]

+1. Do your kids know but her kids don’t know? I would definitely separate from that family. That’s too much for your kids to hold.[/quote]

Their oldest kids know, our older teens hang out together.  Their kids knew before mine, mine really started talking about it after I had the traumatic situation with the "lover" which they witnessed.  I don't think I want to separate the kids who grew up together because of this nonsense.  Maybe I am the one who needs to suck it up?[/quote]

That's the second time you've questioned whether you should just suck this up, OP. Come on, have a backbone and protect yourself here. You are clearly stressed about your kids, this jerk guy did something that deeply rattled you, and even if your friend doesn't know about what he did, again--she shows terrible judgement by being with someone who would do that at all, with or without her witnessing it.

You're now saying it's about not separating your kids from friends they've had for years. Well, you can separate from seeing the friend/mom entirely. If the kids are all older teens, they can get themselves together, or you can take your kids and hers to activities if they don't drive, etc. You can end any all-family get togethers or going to "circle of friends" group stuff. The kids can stay friends but you are not forced to stay friends with her. Stop second-guessing your apparently very strong gut reaction to her. You're upset but still putting everyone else ahead of your own gut needs here! [/quote]

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