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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is she actually ready for college if it was like pulling teeth to get her to apply and now she isn’t interested in any of her choices?[/quote]

+1. It’s very strange that OP thinks she should have pushed more and made more decisions for her daughter. This is their process, not ours.[/quote]

I don't think that's what she's saying.  She regrets not having provided stronger guidance at a more opportune time.[/quote]

Right. At several points she had the opportunity to submit more applications, said I'll do it later, then she said she didn't want to bother. I should have insisted more, but I didn't want to cause more conflict and stress.[/quote]

That is her decision, for good or ill. Can’t you see that? She will learn from it. You can’t learn for her. And this learn-from-experience cost her pretty much nothing - she will go to a good school that has her major, right? Of course over the coming months she may experience some regrets. If you own those regrets and take them on yourself what she’ll learn is “other people should take care of me” or “if I don’t do what I must it is because other people didn’t push me to.” How do you think that plays at work, or in a marriage?

[b]Just keep encouraging her - she did great, is going to a great school, and you are proud of her. If she expresses regrets empathize that hindsight is 20/20, and she’ll make the best of where she goes. You have faith in her[/b].[/quote]

This last paragraph is key. Keep repeating it to her, and to yourself.[/quote]

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