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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My private sector DH is the higher earner and the only reason we are tethered to this area is because of my fed job. It would not be worth it to our family to stay in this area with one parent having to be in an office 5 days per week (the added cost of after care, commuting, etc.) and stress on our family would just suck.

I’d first search for another job in this area, I have feelers out and am pretty sure I could land somewhere. But if nothing works out, we could just move to a lower COL area near family and live off my DH’s income. We have 13 years of home equity we could use to buy a nice home with cash (or small mortgage) elsewhere.

I hate thinking like this though because I know the MAGA sociopaths would love the idea of a woman leaving the workforce and a family moving out of the DC area. [/quote]

Okay?  Lots of families have two full time working parents, with long daycare hours or split shifts.

If you don’t have to live near your DH job, then you are free to live near YOUR job, so your commute is not that long, so why is this so impactful you will move over it? [/quote]

She said it wasn't worth it to her. 
I see this "lots of people make it work" argument all the time but why would somebody merely make it work when they have options? People want to be around their families during waking hours, and if they can do so they will.

That said, I don't actually know any families with 2 parents working full time in DC and the long daycare hours etc. Either they're both hybrid, or one parent commutes and the other is part time or a teacher or WFH or shift work (nursing) so that they can be available. [b]I think the families with school aged kids and two significant commutes 5 days/week are not the norm.[/b] [/quote]

It’s absolutely not the norm anymore. And everyone is better off for it. [/quote]

To press that a little - it was not the norm before covid either. School aged kids don't go to 12-hour daycares and you can't enroll them near your work like you can with daycare. So, many profeasional families had a mommy tracked spouse to make it work. Pandemic WFH made it possible for those spouses to get better jobs and still get to aftercare before it closes at 5:30. [/quote]

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