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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is the SAHP.  I travel 3 days a week.

Kids activities - I sign up, DH does most of the rides and transportation

Kids academic enrichment - I sign up and DH does most of the helping if stuck and responsible for helping DS keep track of homework and helping if needed

Cooking meals - DH

Packing school lunch - DH

House cleaning - DH

Dishes - DH

Taking trash out - DH

Planning vacations - me

Kids bedtimes - 1/2 DH, 1/2 me

I’ll add yard work, car maintenance is also DH[/quote]

[b]I’m a SAHM[/b] but the reverse of this is exactly our setup.  I’m good at execution but my DH is much better at anticipation/planning so he is the one who signs the kids up for things and plans our vacations.  He also is usually the one to take the kids back to school shopping or buy bigger shoes.

He plays board/card games with the kids at night, and later I’ll read to them.  He doesn’t get a huge “break” at home but as much as possible his time is available for our kids, and I do whatever cleaning/chores are left to be done (e.g. dinner and dishes).

It’s a good set up.  I would say [b]he contributes significantly more than I do[/b], but he seems happy and content with the way things are.[/quote]
You're a SAHM and don't even contribute more than someone who works FT and makes all the money? [/quote]

Lots of men and women are a bit useless at being good parents / spouses and the other one has to pick up the slack. It isn't that uncommon for one person to take on more of the responsibility as they married someone who isn't an equal partner and doesn't pull their weight[/quote]

“Contributions” [b]include[/b] financial contributions. So oftentimes:

financial + kid stuff &gt; cooking + cleaning + kid stuff

SAHPs who contribute *equally* to their families are often doing the [b]vast [/b]majority of the child raising, which isn’t how most modern families want to structure their lives.  (i.e. most families want both parents involved in the kids’ lives)

In my case, my DH earns the money PLUS he does a ton with the kids (and doesn’t consider it “picking up the slack” because he actually WANTS to spend time with them) AND he treats me like gold, which leaves me feeling like I won the lottery.  The fact that he contributes more doesn’t mean I am a bad (useless) parent or spouse.  I am just an incredibly lucky spouse.

Hope this helps!

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