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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think some people genuinely love babies— but they are in the minority. Some people accidentally get pregnant with another, of course.

But I think most people just “want” more kids. I say “want” because I think a lot of people either: 1) don’t actually seriously consider the option of not having more 2) have a contract-like agreement with their spouse about how many children they’ll have so they move on behalf of that default understanding or 3) have an ingrained, un-challenged assumption that once you have one child, you have another if you can.

There is also a contingent of people who see the baby phase as a “short term loss” for “long term gain” of having another kid and will admit that they don’t really feel like doing all the baby rigamarole but see it as a long term investment in the family they want. I think that one sounds logical but is actually magical thinking.  You’ll have the family you want just because you have the NUMBER of kids you imagined? What if one dies when they’re 16? What if one is dependent on you for life? What if one becomes estranged as an adult?

I don’t know. That’s how I see people go about it. I have one child. Couldn’t imagine going through it again. [/quote]

Ultimately anyone who has any number of kids is taking a chance and hoping to get lucky when they have kids. Your one child could die or become disabled anytime also, but you obviously knew that and went ahead and had one.[/quote]

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