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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could be special needs  -- some kids really are harder than others. People with easy kids never believe this but people with tough kids know it whether their kids are well behaved or not.

Also there's a difference between being a nice person generally and being a good parent. Parenting requires self-control, patience, love/affection towards your kids, problem solving... but I don't know that being nice is an asset. It could actually be a problem if the niceness takes the form of people-pleasing. If you people please your kids, they won't learn to behave. You have to be able to set limits and you need to be comfortable with your kids being upset with you without taking it personally. That's different than just being nice -- it's an internal strength of character that might be harder to recognize as an outsider.[/quote]

+100

As someone with a more "difficult" kid with mild special needs and also an "easy" kid, I have a lot more empathy for parents of "bad" kids. It's not all parenting.

But, I imagine that without the guidance we provide and therapies that we have gotten for my "difficult" DC that DC could become an absolute terror.

The struggle is real...it's not easy and sometimes DC behaves badly and in the moment there is very little I can do other than take DC home (if we're not already at home), if with DC.[/quote]

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