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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend is an amazing man. He’s very smart, hilarious, gentle, kind, emotionally available, and very loving.

His one bad trait is that he’s not a breadwinner. [b]His career is unorganized, he hates his job, is underemployed, and has no ambition.[/b]

We are mid-late 30s and want kids asap.

I have a good career and make pretty good money. I never planned to be the primary breadwinner though. I think I could financially swing it, if he remains supportive and I rev up my career more. if you’ve taken a similar path, any regrets?[/quote]

I’m actually not against SAHDs or “primary parent” dads at all. But the bold here gives me pause. It does not sound at all like he would be good at carrying a larger mental load at home or with the kids. If he is not into cooking, and is not into planning/organizing/meticulously keeping track of things, you will just end up needing to do all those things on top of making most or all do the money. [/quote]

lol larger mental load? There are plenty of women with unorganized careers, hate their job and are unemployed with no ambition who are easily able to be SAHM. The tasks are not hard just repetitive and boring. [/quote]

I agree with this, but while many women will put up with this and do it (to their detriment, perhaps) many men won't. How many women complain on DCUM about their worthless husbands. So many men who don't want responsibility.[/quote]

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