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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been in a serious relationship with my gf for 8 months now. She is great. However I feel bad that I don't get to spend time with her as much as she would want to. We have a 5-2-5-2 schedule with my ex wife. In theory on the weeks I have my kids only twice I should be able to see her more often. [b]Unfortunately both my kids are athletes and have quite a few extracurricular activities as well that I need to them to even on the days I don't have them.[/b] And with my son we have to fly at least once a month for his completions. My ex wife will not take them to their activities even on the days she has them. If I don't do it nobody will and thats a shame. Even when we were married that was the dynamics she is the version of men that women complain about here.

My girlfriend is understanding, but I can feel her disappointment as she has even expressed that she wants to see me more. She was single for 2 years before we met. She doesn't want kids of her own and that's why I really want to make this relationship work. We talk every night text throughout the day but she wants more of that physical contact. And I have a demanding job as well. I am a consulting actuary and work long hours and travel as well.

Some days I wish she could just broke up with me because I feel like she deserves someone who has more free time especially at her age. She is only 36 and I am 46.

Any divorced man or woman in a similar situation? How did it work in the long term?

I can't do the FWB thing sorry. Having a long term relationship with someone just for sex that's for other people. I am not judging anyone. To each his or her own. If that's the only option I have as a divorced person then I'll just stay single. [/quote]

I'm a  dad with teenagers who have extracurricular activities so I can relate to the time-suck of extracurriculars. For many activities like sports or, acting in a play, practice or rehearsal take up the bulk of the time. While you definitely want to be there for the games, recitals, shows, etc. the day to day practices you can skip if you can figure out another way to get the kids there. Some time-saving tips
1. Take turns car pooling with other parents so you're only responsible for taking your kid and maybe a couple of other kids on the team to practice one night a week instead of 2-4 nights a week. The other nights the other parents will take your kid.
2. When the teens get a little older can they drive themselves to some activities?
3. There's Uber for teens--depending on where you live that might be an option. 
4. Hire someone to drive the kids to practice/rehearsal a few times a week.[/quote]

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