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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One female friend in high school [b]for competing with me incessantly.  Compared every test grade and bragged when she got a better possession.  It just wasn't fun to be her friend[/b]...insecurity made her boring and mean-spirited.  She wasn't even nice when she won a lot.

One male friend whom I helped a lot.  Tried to get him a job.  Helped him and his wife find a student apartment.  Drove him and his wife on a 7 hour one-way trip to drop him off when I had to return alone. Financially helped them to join me and my husband on a vacation because we enjoyed their company and they were broke.  He just became too much of a taker.  The last straw was when he called out of the blue asking me to buy an air ticket because he found a deal.  He would have paid me back for sure, but at that point I felt valued only because I made his life easy and not because I was a good friend.[/quote]

I had a friend like this in my early 30s and it is low key one of the worst friendships I've ever been in. I didn't cut her off but I did start to distance myself from her because it's so unpleasant to be into someone who does this -- turns every interaction into a competition that you are going to lose. I felt like she was using me as a foil for the sole purpose of making herself feel better about herself. The final straw for me was when my mom died and she told me that while she was sad for me, it was going to be worse for her when her own mom died because they were closer than my mom and I were. What in the actual f***.

I didn't want drama so I didn't cut her out but I stopped hanging out with her 1:1 and avoided situations where I'd have to spend a lot of time interacting with her directly. I was still pleasant to her face and would interact with her at parties. She could tell I didn't like her anymore though, so she told all our mutual friends I had stopped talking to her because I was jealous of her.

Crazy is as crazy does.[/quote]

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