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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She could be asexual. This describes me almost exactly.

I never dated in high school because I never felt the desire. I had one relationship with a man later in college that lasted about 1.5 years and ended after graduation. Looking back, I believe it was a relationship of convenience and kindred spirits. I have my suspicions that he may have been gay, but we've lost touch and he's not on social media that I can find. I told myself that I loved him, but it was purely forced on my part. Mimicking behavior I had seen from my siblings and peers.

I spent most of my 20s feeling pretty broken. I went on a few dates at the urging of friends, but I never wanted to date or felt any romantic or sexual connections. I enjoyed a few men as friends but that's it. I finally got a bit too tipsy at a Christmas party and confessed how I felt broken to a friend who asked me if I ever considered that maybe I was gay. I honestly hadn't considered it. She suggested I speak to a therapist, so I did. My therapist suggested I try dating women since I was open to the idea, so I did. It was fine but not for me. Again, I felt no desire to go on dates or any romantic feelings for those I dated multiple times. My therapist brought up the idea of asexuality and once I started researching it, BOOM! That was me. I remember tears rolling down my cheeks because for the first time I didn't feel like a broken human.

I'm a very happy 40-something who is objectively good looking with a good job and my own home. I have lots of friends and adore all my nieces and nephews. I've since had several long-term relationships with other asexual men I met through various groups. I'm open to marriage if I find a compatible partner, but it's not a priority for me. If I had to rate my life on a 1-10 scale, I'd honestly say I'm a 9 in terms of happiness. To many outside of my bubble I probably look sad and lonely, I suppose, but that's ok. I'm happy and those around me who care about me know that as well.   [/quote]

I have two women friends who definitely fit this bill and I’ve always assumed are asexual.

And they’re two of the happiest, most well-adjusted people I know.[/quote]

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