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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"We have been talking for 2 months now and have met up once (as "friends") with the intention of grabbing coffee on a Sunday morning. ... We have been totally honest with one another- he knows that my intention was not to enter the dating world for a while and he keeps saying that he feels like there's something really special growing here and would like to explore that at my pace, even if that means putting a pause and reconnecting in the future. He's been nothing but kind, supportive, and respectful in a really sincere way."

OP, I would proceed with caution. Especially with a guy you have met once. This guy is well aware you are in a vulnerable place and he may be love-bombing you. He sure seems to be saying all the right things at the right time which can be a red flag.

Vulnerable single mom may signal an easy fling or (sexual) conquest for him.

If I were you, I'd take him up on his offer. Tell him for the next six months or so, your entire focus is going to be entirely on your children and finalizing your divorce.  Tell him you will contact him when all that is done, but in the meantime you would prefer to hit the pause button and won't be seeing/chatting with him until that time.

Then, in six months or whenever divorce is finalized, reach out to him and see how he responds. [/quote]

This is a horrid suggestion given the fast paced modern dating. The dude may really like OP but if she suggests it -some other woman will be riding him in 2 months 100% guaranteed. And it’s very hard to break up and go back to OP. They won’t be in sync with their single status anymore.
OP needs to grab him now, if he’s that amazing. But pace herself

Besides - maybe OP wants sex, too - she needs to be an adult and realize that sometimes great sexy connections just end up being a fling. Enjoy those flings as you only live once and the older she gets, the fewer men would even look appealing enough to sleep with.

Stop treating sex as something that only men want and they “use” and manipulate women to get it. [/quote]

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