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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you bring it up if your AC is dating someone who is very high maintenance, spends lavishly on grooming, dressing, traveling, partying, cars etc while earning low and having existing large student loans and ever growing credit card debt? Is it inappropriate to voice concern knowing well how financial hardships can ruin marriages or wiser to hope they'll figure it out on their own? [/quote]

I wouldn't bring it up in the context of a specific relationship because those comments have a way of making it to the girlfriend, which rarely goes well.  The trick is to talk to your boys about frivolous women when the boys are young and impressionable so that they know it when they see it.  Better yet, it is imperative that the mother herself model good behavior for her boys so they have an expectation that their future wives will be financially responsible.

We taught our boys to look for the stereotypical nice girls without tattoos and no student debt.  [/quote]

?No student debt is a measure of being “nice”?[/quote]

It’s a matter of being privileged most of the time. If the person has hundreds of thousands of dollars in school debt that’s different. I’m glad my dh didn’t discuss my school debt with his parents, but I also only had 20k. It’s very normal for Americans to have college debt.

I have a friend with more than 100k and her degrees took her nowhere. If my son were marrying her I prob wouldn’t like it because she’s not going to pay them off herself. Her BE degree is in psychology and master’s in management. No solid job experience. Can’t keep a job.

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