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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone with a kid with severe mental illness who struggles to maintain employment, can someone tell me how you "require" them to get a job?

When my kid got fired because delusions made him act in unexpected ways at work, or when he doesn't get hired in the first place because the executive functioning deficits that come with the medication he needs to keep hallucinations at bay were obvious in the interview, how do I just "require" a different outcome?

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NP. The way I make it happen is this. I found the jobs. I completed the applications. I used my phone number so I could set the interviews. I drove my kid to the interviews.

As far as keeping jobs, I try to be as uninvolved as possible but I do know the supervisors and we have each others’ phone numbers. We call each other if a problem arises. Also they send me the schedule - though we recently progressed to them having him send me a copy. I also make transportation arrangements and try to reserve public transportation for the way home because getting there is the biggest hurdle. We are up to four drivers in the family and everyone pitches in whenever they can fill a need.

Another thing that helps are unions. The union saved my kid’s job several times - including during a lengthy hospitalization that lasted like 7 weeks.

We also don’t give our kid any money at all so they have to work. And, after a particularly bad time when we had to have our kid removed, a condition of returning was employment of at least 20 hours a week plus classes in anything. Having had a taste of living on the streets, they know they don’t want to go back and also that I would put them out if the rules aren’t followed since I actually did it.

But I hear you about the hallucinations and cognitive issues. I finally got mine into a PNP who will prescribe a medication that is contraindicated for the condition but absolutely vital to success. That’s a whole other management issue. [/quote]

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