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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have fraternal BG twins, as well as a singleton who is 11 months older. Yes, it is busy!

I've had some dumb and inappropriate comments/questions, and I'm curious if other parents of multiples have also heard similar remarks, or maybe even ones more bizarre than the ones I've heard.

I'll start with a list of just a few:

[b]1. Are they natural? [/b] No, they are plastic.

[b] 2. Are they identical? [/b] They are BG twins. They look nothing alike. They are not identical.

[b] 3. Did you plan to have twins? [/b] Does anyone PLAN to have twins?

[b] 4. Are they triplets? (Asking while looking at my six-month-old infants and a walking toddler) [/b] Yes, this one, the one who can walk, is just advanced.

[b] 5. Did you use IVF? [/b] How is that your business?

[b]6. You have your hands full! [/b] Do I?

[b]7. Are they all yours? [/b] I gave birth to them, so I think so!

[b]8. Why don't they have rhyming names? [/b] Because we didn't name them as a "set." They are two separate people.

[b] 9. Do you have help? [/b] Are you offering?

[b]10. Did you nurse them? [/b] Why does that matter?

[b] 11. How did you get a boy and a girl? [/b] We put in a specific order from Amazon.

[b] 12. They look normal. You must not have delivered them early.[/b] Normal? What does that mean?

[b]13. How do you tell them apart? [/b] One is a boy and one is a girl. One has brown hair and one has red hair. One is significantly larger than the other. Additionally, I am their mom. It isn't exactly challenging to tell them apart.

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I am a twin who was born in 1987 and none of this is new. My parents were asked all of the above (except IVF) and more, including whether they curled my sister’s red hair so they could tell us apart (I have straight brown hair). It is human interest.

What is hard about being a twin in my experience is that you also get asked things like “who is more athletic/better at math/prettier, etc” and if your daughter is more athletic than your son (as was the case with my friends who were BG twins) that can be hard on the boy. Just lots of unfortunate comparisons. [/quote]

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