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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah - I have 4 yo fraternity twin girls and there are some dumb/intrusive questions, though fewer as they’ve gotten older. The only one that still bothers me is the “do twins run in your family”, which is usually just a back door attempt to figure out if we did IVF. But for that and most of the others I go with good humored honesty because anything else is too much work. Now that they’re older, I actually like to have the girls answer the questions themselves: are you twins? Are you identical? Who’s older?… I think it succeeds in making the nosy strangers behave a bit nicer, and allows our responses to be a bit fuzzy bc, well kids answer stuff like this in funny, unexpected ways. (Full disclosure: I never confirm or deny fertility treatments, but folks almost never ask outright.) Sorry- no real advice for you but definitely able to commiserate. [/quote]
We used IVF, but when people ask if twins run in our family, I can honestly say we’re related to 2 other sets of twins and a set of triplets.

For my children, the most damaging question is who is the older one. It’s asked with surprising frequency, and no one — not one person — has ever asked who is the younger one. It makes the “younger” one feel inferior, even though the age difference is just a few minutes. I always wonder why people ask that question about twins. They’re the same age; one was just closer to the exit.[/quote]

It’s a ridiculous question but not damaging. I’m the younger twin and I’ve never been upset by this question. People are excited/curious/don’t know what to ask. [/quote]

NP. I honestly can’t believe the PP is complaining about someone asking such an innocent question. It’s obviously just something to ask so they don’t feel rude by being silent (or asking an actually inappropriate question like did you use IVF). Some people just want to complain about everything.[/quote]

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