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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op sounds like you don’t want advice necessarily. You seem to want commiseration. But a lot of us can’t commiserate because we would never let it happen. [/quote]

What would you all do differently? I am all ears[/quote]

Cut her off. If she can’t behave, give her one last warning about what will happen and if she won’t follow it, cut her off. She’s over 18, she’s a legal adult. Change the locks as someone said, don’t give her the car, etc etc. She is wreaking havoc because you allow her to.

It’s been going on for years, nothing seems to have helped and she’s a legal adult. So you have only two options - put up with it or kick her out of her life. There are no other options. Pick one. [/quote]

I am willing to do it and have tried to do it in the past. She makes it so much worse and the younger kids feel bad. Like for e.g we are going away for a vacation during Christmas and did not want to take her as we are going with other friends and their families, vacations are worse she does not care that strangers are watching and has created drama in the past and vacations become hell, but she argued that we cant cut her off if she has problems as she is still part of the family. The whole family cant go on vacation and leave her behind. My husband gave in. You are right we are weak and letting this happen to us. [/quote]

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