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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's ok to wait until they are engaged.

Kids don't care about bf and gf people who come and go.

[b]Your older daughter might be judgey but it doesn't mattter much because she said if they get engaged, her kids can be introduced.[/b]

40 year old dudes are unlikely to care about this either.[/quote]

OP here. Part of me thinks older daughter knows younger sister will never commit and so she’ll avoid having to introduce her kids to “a weirdo”. I just think this is terrible! [/quote]

No, it's wise. I would do the same. Not because of this person's external appearance (especially if he's kind, as you said), but because I don't fancy introducing a rotating cast of my sister's boyfriends to my young children.
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if you can remember being a young child, your kids  are likely to take nothing from meeting random "old people" with their aunt, whom they also deem old.  They simply aren't paying attention. For them, he could be a random distant cousin/uncle/friend of the family who showed up one year, if they remember him at all. Unless the person is unsafe, excluding them or including them will have the same effect as including or excluding a work colleague or extended family member.  That is to say, none at all. Random characters at holidays are a barely a blip in the mind of a child, unless adults draw attention to it. And even then! [/quote]

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