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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But it’s ok for a mother and daughter to sit pool side or side by side getting pedicures while her daughter vents that her busband does nothing to help with the kids and her own mom shows her sympathy or makes comments such as he needs to step up more. But god forbid a husband goes to his mom to vent suddenly it’s undermining his marriage or how dare his mom get involved. Is a husband also not allowed to be a son?[/quote]

New poster. I don’t know why I feel like a man going to his mom to complain about his wife is more of a betrayal to his wife than going to say someone who is just a friend. I guess because men aren’t stupid (well maybe some are haha!) and should already be aware that there is often underlying unspoken tension between a wife and a mother for the attention and love of the husband/son so when the wife already a lot of times may have issues with his mother being overbearing and then to turn around and complain about his wife to his mother is like the ultimate slap in the face to his wife. And it just adds to the tension between wife and mother bc of course the mother is going to side with her own son and family gatherings will be more a lot more uncomfortable in the future. So why a man would want to set himself up for that I’m not sure.

Also be honest what women out there would be happy to hear, “oh honey I complained to my mom that I feel like I’m contributing more to the household? Do you really think the wife is going to respond and say, “oh good honey I’m glad you got a second opinion on that and now that your mom agrees with you let me change my whole mindset around our marriage.” You have another thing coming if you think that would in reality happen.

And if the response is that well most men wouldn’t tell their wives then that’s going behind her back

Sure he is.  The MIL should limit her comments to her son, however, and not comment to her DIL.[/quote]

And the son shouldn’t betray his wife who is supposed to be the closest person to him by running to his mom about her. If he has issues with his wife and the household arrangements then she is the best person to take it up with. What can his mom do for him besides cause tension in their marriage bc the wife feels hurt and betrayed? He can be son in so many other ways that don’t involve talking about his wife behind her back. Talk about the weather, what’s going on in his personal life, politics, what’s going on in MIL’s life. It’s really not that hard to not complain about your wife[/quote]

Of course you have never, ever, ever complained about your spouse to ANYone other than your spouse.  Right.[/quote][/quote]

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