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[quote=Anonymous]I haven’t read all the replies but I’m going to start by saying that OP seems to have her wits about her and is looking at this logically, which is step one in helping the kid process this.  The more emotion that can be removed the better the conversation is going to go and the easier it is going to be on the kid.

I’d suggest a call with the kid on a Saturday morning (or honestly go visit if they’re close, take them out for lunch and have the conversation).  I’d let them know that things at home are changing, you’re not really sure what that’s going to look like in the long run but it shouldn’t impact them and their schooling.  And that you wanted to give them a heads up so they weren’t blindsided when they came home.

For thanksgiving itself- I’d offer for them to come home and go to your friends as planned (without their dad of course) or, if you can afford it, offer to take them on a trip somewhere if they’d prefer to do something new.  I took my son on weekend trips after the separation and I think it helped both of us in a lot of ways- new memories, bonding, temporary respitefrom the actual situation.

Good luck OP, you got this.[/quote]

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