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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let him explain it to the kid?[/quote]

This is the best option. My friend was in the same position as op. Her cheating husband moved in with his gf; he asked her to make up an excuse to tell their adult son. She refused and told him he was the one making the decision to move in with the gf, so he would be the one to inform their son.

Of course, many cheaters will make up lies and/or refuse to be truthful with everyone around them, including their own children.

College age/attending children should not be lied to about their family. Dad’s actions aren’t occurring in a vacuum. They affect their children too, no matter the age. Imagine the loss of trust that will occur between parents and kid if kid finds out from a 3rd party or in an embarrassing way that his dad left for another woman and his parents lied to him.

Secrets are no fun, because secrets always hurt someone. Hurt your kid for what reason? To hide your actions from them? Why compound the hurt? I don’t know why kids are seen as non-human creatures who aren’t emotionally invested and involved in their families, and don’t deserve to live authentically and know the truth about their own families/lives. [/quote]

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