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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my boyfriend a lot, but I feel like he has a really hard time regulating his emotions and often dump them on me. For context, he is 25, so I dont know if it's something you grow out of, but when he gets upset he'll often raise his voice or just go on rants.  A few times he has broken into tears, occasionally thrown things or punched walls.  When this happens I get very stressed out and almost feel like my body shuts down, because it seems everything I say makes it worse and I feel like there's no solution. I also didnt grow up around shouting, although my parents were toxic in other ways, so it's very shocking to me.

I guess I want to know how serious this is, if it's something that will change, etc?  We are very serious and talking about engagement but it worries me for the future. I dont know if this is just how it is when certain people are under stress- I get stressed out too but never throw things, punch walls, etc. [/quote]

He needs to fix this before he can be anyone's boyfriend. You can be friends with a crush and benefits if you want, and if he does the work to calm himself down and find safer outlets for his stress (therapy, medication, CBT, stoicism, diet, exercise, whatever), then you can try to progress. [/quote]

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