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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are they?

Those don’t sound particularly mean to me. Perhaps not overly constructively critical but feedback in sports on things to improve on is normal and may be what this girl hears from her own parents / coach.

Does the coach give constructive feedback? Can you daughter take feedback from others?
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Who is she to criticize?   Your daughter doesn’t need to hear from her classmate who has her own weaknesses to work on telling her what to do.  Tell her “ take care of yourself. I don’t need or want your criticism.”    [/quote]

lol. She’s going to sound like a dorky mom. Sports teams get really mean at this age. My daughter is naturally very kind and empathetic, but the spurts she plays does not attract nice girls, nor does it attract nice parents. I’ve told my daughter this comes with in it if she wants to play, this sport. I don’t wznt her to accept this treatment, but she has to put in a game face. Tell your daughter to keep a poker face (or rbf) and not be friendly to this girl. When she offers unsolicited feedback, your daughter either needs to act like she didn’t say anything or[b] give it a few minutes and offer a similarly critical critique of her performance. [/b]Keep it business, don’t make it obviously mean, do the girl doesn’t have ammo to make mean girl behavior involving other teammates and your daughter. Just have your daughter make it very unattractive for this teammate to approach your daughter. [/quote]

This is the correct response. Most players are still learning themselves and don't have the knowledge or context to correct another player, especially at the younger teen ages, and may be telling OP's daughter the wrong thing. If the coach won't step in, the bully's criticism should be ignored and the response should be offering critiques of the bully's playing until the bully keeps her comments to herself.[/quote]

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