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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A broken rib is really not a big deal, if that is all that is wrong.  OP didn’t say she punctured a lung or anything serious.  I’ve broken many ribs and it’s uncomfortable, that is all.  There is often no real treatment either…they don’t tape them any more, usually.

I don’t see why this is resulting in so much pressure to move.[/quote]

Because, obviously, older people don't heal or recover as fast. And depending on the context, it can mean that she's losing her sense of balance. Or osteoporosis or something. Both will get worse. And her partner has dementia which will also get worse. So, as often happens, a not-that-bad injury is a harbinger of things to come and a wake-up call for the family.

She doesn't have to move right now but clearly that's where she's headed. "My boyfriend with dementia will care for me singlehandedly" is not a plan.[/quote]

Or, or, or, or, or.   Maybe wait to make a plan until you have some facts about what is going to be the situation longer term.

I swear some people like to plan the demise of others over and over, imagining all the different bad outcomes, then wonder why all this catastrophizing isn’t popular with its subject or the rest of the family.[/quote]

Avoid, avoid, avoid. Deny, deny, deny. Sorry but he has dementia! There's nothing imaginary about it. Would you want to be old and injured and your sole caregiver has dementia? [/quote]

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