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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t see what being extroverted vs. introverted has to do with anything. That seems like a personal preference on your part.

But yeah. Honestly, I would probably be disappointed and frustrated if this was what my kid was doing but ONLY because she was a very strong student in high school and now early college. If she’d always struggled academically, it wouldn’t be a surprise and I’d probably have already had some other suggestions up my sleeve. Was she a strong student academically and something happened that changed it?

If so, I’d probably see what was going on. But it kind of doesn’t sound like that. It sounds like your kid doesn’t really know what she wants to do. I don’t think I really knew what I wanted to do at 21 (still don’t really) so it’s all about helping her get options.

Is she open to accepting help from you? If so, I wonder if a trade is more something she’d want. Or maybe some internships. Things to get her to think about her future. But if she’s not open then there isn’t much you can do. Certainly there’s nothing wrong with leading an honest life paying your bills. I can understand wanting more for you kid, especially depending on your own background, but people do have their own personalities.

[b]It sounds to me just from what you’ve said that it’s a combo of immaturity and not being into school. So I’d try to give her some experiences to build on as she gets a little older. [/quote][/b]

Op here and I love this. Suggestions as to what experiences she can build on would be?[/quote]

I’m the PP who responded to you. I’m not really sure because they would be so related to her. I have a close friend who did some farming internship in Thailand after college. He basically lived on farms for like 6 months and worked there for room and board. I’m not suggesting that—just that I’m sure there are so many things out in this world she could experience. But she’d have to have SOME interest, which I guess is part of the problem? I have a friend who worked on a cruise ship. One who worked on a ranch. If she does have an interest in any particular career, see what opportunities are available for her to work in it—even as a receptionist.

You said she knows she can ask for help and you don’t want to nag. But if you’re feeling this disappointed and she really is kind of lost, I think it’s time to say some things need to change but I’m going to help. I don’t have personal experience with ADHD but maybe the posters are right that it’s not being managed well.[/quote]

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