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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am surprised by all the women saying it's more important to them.

Woman here, with an active s-x life in my 25 year marriage.  Every woman I know is totally indifferent to sex in their marriage by mid 40s. Or if we think it is important, it is important only because our husbands think it is important - and we love our husbands so want to maintain that closeness with them through s-x.  That is, if my DH thought watching netflix nightly was an important part of staying emotionally close, I would put a high priority on watching netflix nightly and would take pleasure from it because it keeps us close. Even if i don't have a personal desire to watch netflix.  If our DHs decided tomorrow that they were all happy having s-x just once or twice a year, I don't know any women who would care.

I think the women responding and saying it is more important for women.... are likely in dead marriages and want to point to s-x as the problem when it's likely something else.   [/quote]

I agree with all of this.  
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No way!!!!!

DW in my 50s married 20 years here. Have weekly sex with DH, I would prefer 2-3x week and am dissatisfied with 1x, but this is where DH is now. Hoping I can get the number up in a few years when kids start leaving for college and I have more time to focus on DH.

I want it for myself… for us as a couple too, but I am definitely still in it for myself and not indifferent, and if DH only wanted 1-2x/year I would be miserable. I get restlessness after a day or two without… My drive has gone up over the past 5-10 years, his was probably higher in the baby years when mine was lower because I was pregnant or breastfeeding.

Agree with poster that said men peak earlier than women and it’s unfortunate on both sides. However, I do feel fortunate that I am still sexual and plan to be this way for a long time. Yes, things are a little dryer down there, but that’s what lube is for. Also maybe more delicate and different from my younger days, but I’m also more experienced and now I know my body better, and there are workarounds. [/quote]

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