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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I was not impressed with the person they had doing the homestudies (a ton of factual and grammatical errors, and it took a long time), they were not familiar with DC (how to get a kid on DC Medicaid, the DC school lottery process, they told me to apply for LISS not knowing that's only a MD thing, and their therapists could not bill DC Medicaid), and they had a lot of staff transition. I don't think anyone from my orientation group successfully adopted a child--they also didn't have any staff who had adopted from foster care. It might be better if you live in MD than DC.

Some of it, I think, was that kids' workers tend to gloss over really hard stuff in order to get a kid placed. But kids who a state is willing to place out of state in a "waiting child" adoption all have really tough issues--to the point that their extended families, foster parents, and other local foster parents have all said no to adopting them. They have been through more moves than most foster kids and often been in care longer. The type of parent who is capable of handling that is really rare. I think AT should probably dissuade more people from taking placement of kids, really help scrutinize what prospective parents are being told by the kids' workers, and/or give a LOT more support. My experience is a few years old though so hopefully it has changed. [b]I would ask them what percentage of people who completed the training and homestudy with them in the past 5 or 10 years have a child placed, what percentage of those placements result in adoption, what percentage of the kids placed require hospitalization and/or institutional care in the first couple years of placement, and how many of the adoptions were disrupted after being finalized.[/b]

If you are someone who can handle adoption of a waiting child that is fantastic and I wish you all the best--it is desperately needed and as much as I hoped I could do it, I couldn't.[/quote]

This is really good advice.  There is so much that is covered by adoption agencies in the pursuit of getting older children (i.e., any child who is not an infant) adopted.  [/quote]

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