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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm guessing all the people who say "no one treats you different - its YOU projecting!" are the exact people who treat thinner people better than larger people. [/quote]

+1  This is not a hard to understand phenomenon, but the way people go out of their way to say it's all down to the recipient of the bad treatment is hilarious.

I had a friend who was a bartender throughout our 20s - she said she'd watch the same guys be performative gentlemen to thin women and shove/elbow heavier women out of the way to place an order at the bar.  She told me this because she used it as a metric for how she judged guys that would hit on her - she knew they weren't complete jerks if they didn't physically assault a heavier woman they thought was in their way.  I was just like "okay. . . but there's still all these women being shoved around, and I don't think you getting bare-minimum insight into a stranger's character is enough of a payoff here."  Even though she was observing the terrible treatment of heavier people, she kind of internalized it as a useful data point.  And I'm sure those women would just be told to be more confident or smile more or "people are responding to your own insecurities!" if they mentioned treatment like that here.  It's a joke.[/quote]

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