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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think about this a lot, because I am a caregiver to a severely disabled spouse. I assume he'll pass before me... and then who will take care of me if I need help? Here are my random thoughts: Most people want to live independently because they want control over their daily schedule. They want to eat dinner when they want, not when the cafeteria/meal service is serving dinner. You can outsource a lot of your daily care needs, if necessary, as long as you have use of your hands and mind. Meals can be ordered and delivered - just open up and heat. You can hire someone to take out your garbage and clean your house, do your laundry. You can even hire a company to take care of your house if needed -- all cheaper than moving into assisted living. You can hire a companion, get help from a friend neighbor or family member, with a lot of the smaller stuff. The expensive part of care happens when you have trouble with the big stuff, the stuff beyond what a neighbor or friend can help with, and stuff you'd rather your kids not have to deal with: - toileting (getting on and off, not falling, able to take clothes off and on, and wiping - showering and bathing - getting yourself dressed in the AM and undressed at night. - actually taking medication (touching it and putting it in your mouth) - even aides aren't supposed to do that for you. They can remind you but they need a special certification or need to be an RN to handle medication. - staying on top of medication reorders - complicated trips to multiple doctors. - fall risk - tranferring to wheelchair from bed - difficulty feeding yourself A few of these can be postponed if you move somewhere very accessible or if you renovate your house to be super accessible. Put in a first floor "en suite" bathroom with a walk in/roll in shower and multiple safety bars, as well as a tolet with a bidet.[/quote]
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