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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious what the moral is here…make sure twins attend different colleges?  Have different friend groups in HS?

…or you want them to be attached for life?[/quote]

Moral is that each twin deserves to be an individual and their romantic partner shouldn't feel like third wheel. Having a strong bond with a sibling (twin or not) doesn't mean becoming an extra appendage to them. [/quote]

You should read One and the Same by Abigail Pogrebin about identical twin relationships.  Tiki Barber is an ID twin and in the book he states that his wife  and his twin's wife were made aware and agreed that the brothers' relationship was very important, and as important as the marriages, and the wives needed to be on board with that.

https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2009/10/tiki-ronde-barber-excerpt-200910#:~:text=%E2%80%9CLet%20me%20answer%20it%20this,we're%20still%20one.%E2%80%9D

"All three Barbers I spoke to tiptoe around the question of how the wives handle the twinship. “Let me answer it this way,” says Geraldine. “Do they understand it? I’d say, ‘Not totally.’ Do they respect it? Definitely.”

“When we’re all together, it’s a great foursome,” Ronde says. “But at the end of the day, we all know who’s making the decisions. It will come down to what Tiki and I want to do, because that’s the Relationship. So you figure out the psychodynamics of that … “

Tiki echoes him: “I think our bond is the strongest it’s ever been and the strongest bond that there possibly is. Greater than marriage. I’m closer to Ronde, without a doubt. And that will never change.” I tell each Barber that some twins’ relationships have struck me as a kind of love story and I wonder if they find that’s a fitting analogy. Ronde nods. “We see beyond who we pretend to be. I know who he really is, he knows who I really am, and if you were writing a love story, that’s what it would be. All those romantic ideals—‘conquers all,’ ‘stands the test of time’—yes. That’s certainly the case with us.” Tiki agrees that twinship is “a perfect intimacy.”

“It starts from the zygote splitting and one destined person becoming two,” he continues. “And while we go our separate ways in life and our experiences vary, at the end of the day, we’re still one.”
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