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[quote=Anonymous]OP, there's a really great documentary I recommend you watch:

https://beyondhoardingmovie.com

As I understand it, hoarders have a mental illness where they become attached to objects just like you might become attached to a pet.. or a person!

So say they have hundreds of old coffee cups and you threaten to declutter by taking 25 to a thrift store.  That causes great pain, because they are attached to their things as if they are people.  It's irrational -- that's why it is a mental illness. It causes them great anguish. It's like you are threatening to take away their children.

It's why they can get rid of items but only if they know they are going to "a good home..." where someone will appreciate them.

So that's one way to get some space cleared out.  If you can lie to them and convince them that someone desperately needs their items... they may be willing to let them go.

If you mom isn't too far gone yet, you might be able to set some limits with her. If you are going to be staying in the apartment, you ABSOLUTELY need to have a non-hoarded space to live in.

She needs to keep all doors clear of boxes or items to keep a safe path for exit or for emergency rescue people to get in and out.

All plumbing fixtures need to be kept free and clear for repairs. You need to be able to exit and enter the bathroom and use the facilities... Things like that. It won't stop her hoarding but at least it can help make the apartment more livable for you.

But really she needs treatment.  Watch the documentary and see if you can find her competent help.

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