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[quote=Anonymous]I think you are over managing this and you are going to be much happier if you mentally think about his sabbatical as no different in terms of what he can pick up at home than if he was going to a job.

Not saying your husband isn’t a bad egg (what you describe would absolutely infuriate me) but approaching this as about a refreshing break from work rather than 4 months to finally lean in at home is going to lead to more marital harmony. It seems a little weird that you are driving the conversation about what he could do with this time rather than him.

After working my entire adult life I totally understand the desire for a sabbatical as a break/reset. Could include time for getting more healthy, professional development in certain areas, reconnecting with the person you want to be (especially if feeling mid-life crisis-y). If I was the one taking it, yes, it would also include extended family travel, more time with kids, and house projects, but I’m not your husband.

Sounds like the sabbatical conversation is a red herring for other issues in your relationship. I understand why that is (someone announcing they’re taking time off with no plans to help at home when that’s been an issue for years would certainly be triggering) but it might help you to try to separate the two.
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