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[quote=Anonymous]As others have mentioned, it easy to accept a parent paying expensive medical bills for a sibling, or paying for a graduate degree or paying for childcare as they start a new job and build up more savings. It's much harder to digest parents enabling.
 
  In my family I never asked my parents for help with medical bills for one of our kids, or to pay for a special private school to better address the special needs and things like that, but my mother went out of her way to repeatedly tell me preemptively that they would not pay for such things when I had no intention of asking. She did promise if we didn't have a wedding we would get money to use for furniture and other things. Turned out she decided she must approve everything and we could never than her enough so we stopped after a few thousand.

One of my siblings meanwhile has my mother funding unemployment (fired due to difficult behavior), her divorce attorney (divorce due to her cheating), private school for the kids (no special needs), and much more.

I just accepted that all and moved on and detached more and then mom was irate that I would not provide emotional support as sibling went through this challenging divorce. I think she is afraid to fund a therapist because the therapist might point out our family is bat sh&t crazy, but I digress. I will not enable and I cannot provide emotional support to someone who cheated even if "it's family!"[/quote]

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