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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, now he wants to be Mr Mom, when they are 12 and 15 and almost completely self sufficient. Fascinating.[/quote]

Yes - this also gets me.. [b]He was so absent when I needed him. He went to the office before they went to school and came home after dinner. He never made an effort to help on a daily basis with the kids.[/b] [/quote]
In one post you say this is what you love, and in another you say this is what you hate. What DO you want? [b]He wants to be involved now, he wants to step back and have more time with family. [/b]Why does that bother you?[/quote]

I don't see where people are getting this.  He's already had all this free time since Covid and hasn't directed any of it toward his family/kids.  He's saying he'll only do so if his wife gets a higher paying job.  That's the bothersome part.

If someone's gone all day for a job then not helping with kids is reasonable because they simply can't.  If someone is sleeping in every single morning while you handle the morning rush, not helping with kids is bothersome.  My DH has an easy mostly-WFH job and can prioritize his workouts, but he's also a hands-on dad.  I can't imagine how much I'd resent him if he was snoozing every morning while I handled wakeup/get dressed/breakfast/drop off by myself, or if he got off work every day before me but somehow I was still in charge of all household tasks.[/quote]

You didn’t read the OP. From paragraph 3: “ Now he's telling me I should find a new job that pays more because he can do all the shuttling of the kids/dr appts, housework, etc.”

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