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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a sibling and I am 100% responsible for my mom.  He visits maybe once every year or two and has nothing to do with assisting with any of her care.  Don’t feel sorry for onlies, feel sorry for anyone who has to carry the burden by themselves.[/quote]

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I have one sibling.  That sibling has not seen my parents in almost 10 years.  They only saw them for the 15 years before that simply because I paid for them and their kids airfare to come every xmas (we used to live 2 hours from my parents).  We had a fight, nobody enjoyed that last visit, in fact we were miserable, sibling was in the wrong and hasn't apologized to anyone, so they haven't asked to visit since then. 
Basically, if someone else isn't paying, they are not visiting. But they can find the time and money to go with BF to visit his family (well his kids, because heck he's older than my parents and no he's not rich at all).

So needless to say, I am the one responsible for my parents.  Despite being 3k miles away, we used to fly them out every xmas for 10 days and sometimes in the summer.  Then covid hit and they are aging too much for them to fly.  So I go 3-4times/year to visit them. I got them set up in a CCRC (paid the entry fee) so that they are well taken care of in between my visits, should something happen.  
I know that when their health declines it will still be me doing everything---I'm the one authroized to do that (I have POA).  My sibling is only listed as "you can inform them of parents health issues, but they cannot make any decisions".  
Waiting to see if sibling even attempts to visit them once their health really begins declining (they are mid 80s, so it could be anytime). Or even bothers to attend a funeral---I'll probably have to pay for them to come. 
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