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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a paid caregiver and over the decade I've done this work I've seen many families where one child shoulders the vast majority of the burden of eldercare of parents while the other siblings criticize.

Very few families have an ideal dynamic where everyone chips in equitably.[/quote]
This is true, but for us, it falls on the  sibling who lives the closest with no younger children, and who are single.  Both my spouse and I have more than one sibling, and in both cases, the sibling who takes care of our elderly parents is and has been the sibling who lives the closest to them, and they also are either childless or have an adult child. We have stated that these siblings should get more of the estate when the parents pass.

We are all super grateful for our siblings, and we do try to pitch in when we can. We live far away from our parents.

When we had DC#1, we thought it was going to be one and done, but the more I thought about it, the more sad I was for my DC who would grow up without a sibling and [b]have to shoulder the burden of looking out for us when we got older. [/b]
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WTH?? Kids are not a substitute for financially planning your own care or developing your own communities (hobbies, church, whatever) to engage you in your old age. Shoulder your own burden like an adult. [/quote]

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