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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m happy to help out our first year when they call with questions. There’s a lot to navigate with new friends, a new living situation, new learning situation, new clubs and activities, etc. DC is doing great - [b]but why wouldn’t I help out if asked?[/b] I’m glad they see us parents as a source of support and encouragement. Everyone in the world needs someone to call.[/quote]

I think it depends on what it is and what exactly "help" entails, but in general, I think the greatest gift we can give our young adults is reassurance, confidence, and belief that they CAN stand on their own two feet and solve problems on their own without needing help from Mom and Dad.

(Again, it depends on the problem. If my kid calls with an emergency...an actual emergency, not "I overslept for class"...of course I'll help in the best capacity I'm able to. If my kid calls and asks where he can find quarters, unless I know off the top of my head, I'm not going to search that answer out for him. That's something he's perfectly capable of doing. If he calls because he failed a test or something I'll commiserate and offer suggestions if he explicitly asks for them, but I'm not going to directly "help" by setting up a tutor or asking other parents in Facebook group for advice or God forbid, talking to the professor.) 
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