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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream.  Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

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Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?[/quote]

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Talk about cherry-picking.
What happened there has had absolutely no impact on the day-to-day lives of the vast majority of Virginians, queer or straight.

The likelihood of being a victim of violent crime is quite lower as a queer person living in suburban NoVa than for any person living in NYC. Like, magnitudes lower. I don’t understand people thinking NYC or SF are so much better for gays when they are really less safe for just about everyone. [/quote]

What about the whole trans thing in schools?[/quote]

Virginia has landed in a moderate position on this issue.[/quote]

What exactly is the moderate issue here? From what I see, Virginia is extremely transphobic.[/quote]

How so? A few random bills have been put forward. Some would be overreach if passed, like the one that requires teachers to notify parents if they become aware of a kid identifying as trans. Other items like protecting women’s sports have broader support - including mine. But very little has actually been legislated and passed. Our current governor has not made this a hill to die on and that is good.

There is a big difference between suburban Fairfax county (very moderate) and RoVA. But guess what! Trans people live there too, even a good friend of mine who could easily live elsewhere. The fact is, many people will talk a talk, but when it comes down to it,[b] the vast majority will not mistreat their family member, neighbor, or coworker for being trans or gay, but are accepting even if they don’t fully understand. [/b]
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Are you gay or trans? if so and you've been accepted by your family then you're very fortunate. I don't know any trans people on good terms with both of their parents. Most are completely estranged. Even gay men and lesbians are often still disowned. I met a bisexual woman that was kicked out of her house by her father because she wanted to date another woman and the odds are she'll end up with a man because most bisexual people end up in straight relationships since that's where most of the dating pool is.[/quote]

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