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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.[/quote]

Incorrect.  First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined.  Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students.  Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)?  Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so.  If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires.  It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.[/quote]

Are you a complete fool? The cheating that an academic institution is interested in would be academic cheating such as plagiarism or altering research data. Fooling around with your co workers is not on the list. In fact, there is nothing that the admin could do about two tenured faculty fooling around with each other. [/quote]

Five minutes on Google would prove you wrong.  Universities do care about about relationships between faculty members, particularly if they can cause disruption to the academic environment, subject the university to legal liability (direct or indirect authority of one professor over another), etc....  In fact, universities reserve the option to take any action necessary to ensure compliance with the spirit their fraternization policies, including transferring either or both employees to minimize disruption of the work group.[/quote]

You clearly have never worked in a university.

My guess is that OP is a low level staff position. Tenure is very difficult to break and two colleagues consensually seeing each other doesn’t come within a mile. My guess is that OP a grad student or staff person and that you have been cheated on. This is triggering for you rather than just eww. You want to get revenge on the cheating person who wronged you by proxy.

Contact the spouses if you are doing it out of a desire to help them. If it’s anger or revenge then talk to your therapist. [/quote]
My guess too. You won't get tenure by getting your colleagues in trouble, if they do get in trouble. It will backfire on you. You won't get tenure anyway because there are virtually no tenure track jobs anymore. Write and publish or whatever you're supposed to be doing to prove your mettle and let this go.

How did you know the office door was locked unless you tried to open it or someone else did and told you?

All they have to do is deny it if questioned. Or are you going to be a PI and bring the dean some photos?
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