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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your son’s diagnosis exacerbates some of the difficult dynamics a lot of us go through. One of mine was particularly hurtful and distant until they wanted/needed something. They treated me like an ATM and crisis manager, and as soon as I paid or fixed their problem it was like I didn’t exist. Except for the intermittent angry outbursts. This DC was really extreme and it only got worse. But that was selfishness and greed, not neurodivergence.

I suspect the normal process of pulling away some, and the pressure that your son is under in a new environment are causing him to be extremely hard on you. I know it’s painful, but I don’t think closing the door is the answer. Spend time with people who value you and definitely get some therapy. You deserve love and support. I don’t think your relationship with your son will be like this in five years. I don’t know exactly what it will be like, but I think it will be better.[/quote]

Thank you. I think this is true. I reached out to my old therapist I haven’t seen in quite a while to see if she had any appointments. I would really like to see someone who specializes in ASD but I also like the idea of someone who already knows me.[/quote]
I think this is a good plan, OP. The thread is descending into the typical DCUM nastiness, and I would just ignore that. You have a plan, and I think you will find your way through this. After you receive some support you will be in a better place to work on the relationship with your daughter and how you will handle that. It’s a bit like your dehydrated and need an IV.

I wish you all the best, and I hope that you and your daughter eventually land in a place where you can feel mutual respect and love, however that will look for your particular set of circumstances.[/quote]

Thank you. ❤️[/quote]

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