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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes I’m a doctor and so many reasons:

Our work hours make it hard to get pregnant
When we get pregnant we are still expected to work long hours. Some residency programs have their pregnant residents work 24-28 hours straight so that increases miscarriages
Ppl don’t want to deal with having babies during residency and training so they wait until after when they are in late 30s

So it’s not surprising [/quote]

But did you know? The article says “had they known….” Why didn’t they, doctors, get caught off guard that delaying pregnancy might be an issue?[/quote]

Also a doctor - didn’t try to have kids until 34 (which isn’t really that old), and ended up needing IVF. Turns out I had extensive endometriosis, and didn’t even realize how bad it had become over the years since I was constantly exhausted and uncomfortable anyway!

I knew perfectly well that it might not work out, but we just could not afford childcare.

My husband (who is a few years younger than me) had a fairly good job (15 years ago he was making ~80K) and I was making 40-50K as a resident and fellow (6 years after med school). But we needed a nanny if we had kids because my schedule was insane and he had a horrible commute (thanks to the fact that residencies are a match - you enter a sort of lottery and it can be hard to get into a program near your spouse’s job). But we could not afford a nanny, and there’s no guaranteed or affordable or extended day childcare for housestaff at Hopkins. So we waited.

It took 5 years and was very stressful, but it worked out.

I tell my kids now that if they ever want kids but don’t have the money for childcare then I will pay! Do not let that be the barrier! [b]Our parents wouldn’t help us, saying that we were adults and they were done helping us on principle[/b], but they almost principled themselves out of grandchildren.[/quote]

Assuming they had money available, that’s harsh. I don’t believe in paying for weddings or brand new cars for my children, but I would absolutely pay for a nanny to improve their work/life balance and improve the quality of the care. I had my kids at 40 so I already feel a little sad knowing I won’t have much time with grandkids if my children wait as long as I did to become parents. I was able to conceive naturally although it took a year for the first. I can only imagine how much harder it would have been if I’d worked insane hours like a resident. Especially if DH was working like that too and it was hard to be home together during ovulation. [/quote]

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