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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have one in college and one finishing high school. Just like you spend your kid’s HS years teaching/reinforcing how to adult, this is a good time for parents to focus on their own transition.

Pick up an old hobby or find a new one. Make plans with adult friends. Take a class in something new, get involved in a volunteer activity, make a commitment to trying one new restaurant a week, whatever. Basically, tune up those rusty socialization and self-entertainment skills and take them for a spin.

One caveat: While doing stuff with your spouse/partner is part of this, be careful you don’t substitute their care and feeding for your child’s. You are not your husband’s social secretary or cruise director. He has to carve out his own areas, and you are not responsible for that. [/quote]

I guess my issue is none of this sounds appealing at all: not into restaurants anymore, never was a social person. I did volunteer at a cat shelter for many years and had to stop due to scheduling. I might do that again, and walk more. [/quote]

My mom was like that. Nothing interested her. I couldn't get her to do anything and tried so hard. She's an introvert and, much later, I learned she was depressed and didn't want to take medicine for it. All those years were wasted. She sat around the house, went to the grocery store, and met up a few times a year with old friends for lunch. That's not how I want to live.

I recommend getting assessed for depression. If you're able, I'd try different activities until you find something you like. If you can't find enjoying in much of anything, that's a sign of depression.

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