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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just let it roll off your back. Say, sure, or whatever. I'd not stop posting pictures because one set of grandparents don't like it. You have your own life to live. I understand you. Just carry on and if it suits you, make some arrangements with them and if not, then don't. They could also offer to come get the kids and take them for a trip, if they really wanted, instead of expecting you to travel to the middle of nowhere. [b]I think they actually don't want to do anything and want to just complain. A lot of grandparents do this. I think it's their own guilt talking, so they're trying to put the blame on you. It's as if it becomes your problem to sustain the relationship between them and the grandkids. As somebody said, if someone wants a relationship, they make it happen. They're retired and have the time.[/b] [/quote]

This right here. Describes my parents perfectly. They rarely offer to spend time one on one with my DD. It's on me to facilitate the relationship and I'm just not going to anymore. Want to see her? Ask. Use your words. And don't act super put out when I ask if you can either drop off or pick up to make it not a pain for me.

ILs ask to see DD much more frequently and call her just to chat (my parents NEVER do). And when they hang out with her, they make it convenient for us because they know our time is limited and they have tons of time. They also offer to help out when we are in a bind.

And my parents are shocked that DD has a better relationship with my ILs than with them. You as a parent need to do what's best for your family ... dragging your kids to remote GA probably isn't it. They can come to you guys if that's more convenient for you/your kids (assuming they aren't so elderly they can't travel, which in that case, they probably aren't equipped to watch 2 young children on their own anyway).[/quote]

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