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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve learned from this thread that the non-reciprocaters get by by having a broad enough circle that they can churn through friends who all eventually dump them when they realize. The non-reciprocators think this is no big deal because they just rely on others to invite them. So it’s not really that they are indifferent to being invited places,  they are just selfish and happy to continually lose friendships rather than reciprocate. Weird. [/quote]

Nope. We host rarely and have a lot of friends who have never been to our house or only been once or twice. We have lots of longtime friends who still invite us over (and we do other things with them that don't involve hosting).

Our house is just not conducive to hosting. We can host certain families and certain activities but we are selective because we don't want it to be uncomfortable or stressful. People either get this or they don't. Our good friends all pretty much understand that we'd love to host more (we hosted a lot before kids and all our old friends came to those parties) but cannot. They don't hold it against us because they are reasonable.

We can always be counted on to bring something delicious to eat and a nice bottle of wine or a sixer of beer. And to be gracious guests. If that is not enough for someone then I guess yes that friendship won't last. But our social life is pretty full and most of our friends have been our friends for anywhere from 5-20 years so I don't think we are alienating people due to not hosting.[/quote]

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