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[quote=Anonymous]The kid is probably confused, scared, and "siding with" whoever they think they need to in order to be safest (physically & emotionally). I grew up with a dad who physically abused me & verbally/emotionally abused my mother in front of me (in hindsight I think he likely physically abused her too). I hated him. I am now no contact with him. But at the time I recall sometimes "siding with" him ... so that the rest of the day and that night would be slightly less awful for me, and because if I stood up for my mom instead she was likely to tell me off for disrespecting my father instead of appreciating it and standing up to him. In a situation where kids are witnessing one parent abuse the other -- especially if the kid is getting dragged in and expected to take sides-- the family dynamics are very messed up for everyone. It is bad for the parent being abused, and bad for the kid. OP, is there any way to get at least yourself and the kid into family therapy? [/quote]
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