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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m all for respecting our elders but I was abused and ignored by my parents. And now that they’re both gone, I’m at peace.

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You mother could have aborted you but. Instead, chose to go through 9 months of all that pregnancy involves and gave you life, didn't she?  Ingrate.[/quote]

DP. I was unplanned. The only reason my mom didn’t abort was that she already had a girl and hoped I would be a boy. 
Unfortunately, I wasn’t a boy and she was disappointed. Not only was she disappointed, she read and heard that it was okay to ignore me when I cried, that crying infants didn’t need to be tended to. 
So she didn’t tend to my needs from day 1. 
To boot, she told me all of the above when I was old enough to understand, probably in elementary school.

She was emotionally neglectful and forced me to be her helper as soon as I was physically able. I was scrubbing pots and pans and floors n my hands and knees as a child while she went out shopping with my other siblings. She was neither loving or caring. It was, and still is, all about her.
Later as a preteen, my father sexually abused me. He was also extremely verbally abusive.

As soon as I could be independent, I distanced myself. 
Now they’re elderly, demanding I help out.  Even when I had helped out on the past, it was never good enough. No, it’s not going to happen.  My brothers can help out- that’s the tradition in my culture.

I wish my mom would have aborted me instead. She didn’t, so I’m stopping the cycle of abuse.

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