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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op

That’s why I said things that were done to you or things you witnessed. [/quote]

We get it.  You want people to tell you it's not gossip and you should totally badmouth people to others.  [/quote]

You call it badmouthing, but what’s the difference between that and the truth? Should you hide the truth to protect someone’s feelings?

Didn’t the me too movement start by some people telling some true stories? Those women didn’t have it in them to tell the aggressor in the moment, but in so glad they finally spoke up and ‘badmouthed’ him.

And I do know what the dictionary or google definitions of gossip are. I was interested in how people perceive it.

I’m ok to accept that I don’t behave optimally sometimes. I’m ok with that. No need for you all to try and act like saints.

If all people would behave like they wrote the world would be so much better.

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Your crusade is in another thread, sweetie. "Me too" is about telling the story of your own experience, and very rarely gets used to out an aggressor by name. Telling Sally that Suzie's potato salad tasted off at the picnic isn't a "me too" moment, it's gossip.

For most women, the things they have to "me too" don't get verbalized, or can't, directly to their abusers, because doing so makes them unsafe. Telling Steve's mommy that he's a playground bully has limited social repercussions, and is unlikely to put you in harm's way. The social repercussions are less than telling Stacy, Sally, and Suzie about Steve kicking your kid last Sunday.

If it's your truth, speak it to the source. If it's your "truth" about someone you're still in relationship with but not willing to speak directly to, and you choose to say it behind their back instead, it's probably gossip.

See how this works?[/quote]

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