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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things that my MIL & FIL did for me as her DIL before we got married:
-  Invited me out to dinners when they are in town, even when my now DH was not available,
-  FIL/MIL invited to play pickleball with them and introduced me to their friends,
-  Invited me to go shopping for clothes with her and MIL paid for everything,

After we got married:
- Paid off my student loan debt, around 100K,
- They asked us where we wanted to live, and bought us a TH and paid off the mortgage, around 900K,   
- Bought me a new 2022 RAV-4 and DH a Model Y Tesla,
- When I got pregnant, MIL asked if it would be OK to send over her personal chef to cook for me two hours every day,
-  Always ask me if it would be OK to come over and visit the twins.  MIL said it was OK to say "NO" to her,
- Include me in their wills. DH also has a younger sister,
- My own mother was hospitalized last year and, even with health insurance, she owed the hospital 45K. My MIL took care of the bill,
- My FIL and I are  PB mix-doubles partners, while my MIL and I are pickleball doubes partners,
- They always ask for my opinions,

Both FIL and MIL, and SIL as well, are very generous and non-judgemental people.  They love me like I am their own daughter.

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I hope you appreciate this is a completely unrealistic list for 99% of people.  Also, you don’t even seem to realize that 75% of the list is “my in laws paid for XYZ”…which means you equate money with how you make someone feel special.

BTW, great kid that you didn’t pay for your own mother’s medical bills and you cried to your in laws for more money.[/quote]

PP was being sarcastic. To be honest, money helps both with adult kids and their families but as long as you are kind and respectful of boundaries and not a financial burden, most reasonable women want a healthy relationship with their in-laws.[/quote]

If they were being sarcastic, it would be much shorter and funnier.  It was long and had no humor.[/quote]

Well, in that case, they are very wealthy and generous and she is financially and ethically bankrupt.[/quote]

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