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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the expectations are that you all chip in for the cost, then you absolutely have grounds for feeling frustrated that she did not consult you about the date or the venue. If you pay, you get a say.

That said, sometimes a group can't pull an event together because of "death by committee". Everyone has an opinion about how to do it and disagree with others, and things fall through. If you suggest that you all take a step back and plan it from scratch, how do you envision the process? What is your idea for a proper celebration? Who's going to do the majority of the research and planning, logistics, etc? If you don't have clear ideas and can't offer to take on the lead role to make it happen, then perhaps it's a good thing that your sister is taking charge.

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OP here.  Yeah that's a fair point that her taking charge means I probably won't have to do anything other than show up and pay my share, lol.  It just wouldn't occur to me to plan something like this without consulting sibling co-hosts!  I guess I expected her to at least check on school schedules before setting a date, but shrug, maybe that's too much to expect.  
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Honestly OP, just buy your airline ticket now back home next summer, you have a year notice!   I have to fly my butt to my cousin’s wedding somewhere in Estonia and I didn’t even get a year notice (6 months) for a summer wedding!

I planned a similar thing and paid for it all myself.  I had input from everyone and it made it that much more difficult.  I would have loved to do a trip but we had family members who couldn’t afford it and others who could afford it but would never spend money on the kind of trip my in laws would like.  They like to travel 5 star but don’t have the money to pay to fly anyone else because my in laws took 1 international trip a year and maybe 2-4 domestic (including visiting us).  I am happy we had the party and they loved it but they couldn’t have it now and they can’t travel anymore due to health issues. My husband offered to fly with them but the last two big trips (including an international one) my MIL ended up in the hospital and broken bones.

Celebrate your parents and book tickets soon (maybe refundable) to save $$ [/quote]

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