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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has a female business partner, and I am uncomfortable by the amount of communication they have and how much personal information is shared.

Every single day, the two of them have a one-on-one meeting for an hour where they just have coffee, discuss what they did the night before, chat about personal things (“Oh, did you do yoga on the beach when you were on vacation?”, “If you could eat one thing forever, what would it be?”, “what’s your middle name?”), and laugh.

After that, they are in near constant contact from 9 am to 7 pm. She calls him around 7 times a day. They chat on Slack when they’re not on the phone. They call each other before meetings to plan, call after meetings to discuss how it went, and any questions she may have during the day, she calls him. It’s never less than 30 minutes.

Now, she’s pregnant. She told him when she was about 6-7 weeks, which is way early for work. He’s been mentioning things like, “Oh, She came to the meeting today but she was so nauseous” or I’ll overhear her whining to him about how nauseous she feels or how unwell she feels.

I have talked to him numerous times about how the excessive communication makes me feel like he does nothing but spend his days giggling and flirting with her. If there’s a question, I think email or slack is appropriate. It doesn’t need to be an hour long phone call. If you need to plan meetings, do it during your hour long morning call when you do nothing but just chat about your lives and how much you have in common. [b]The pregnancy stuff is really throwing me off too— that’s stuff I would never, ever share with a boss or coworker[/b]; I’d text my husband if I was feeling morning sickness.

I am preparing to talk to him about it again today because I’ve gotten to the point where it deeply bothers me. His response is always that he’s doing nothing wrong except running a business and if I have a problem with the way he’s doing it, THAT is a problem.

Any advice? Am I overreacting?

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It honestly sounds like you are overreacting.  She's married and having a baby, he's married to you.  Daily one-on-ones are not excessive for business partners.  Constantly being on Slack is normal for anyone who works remotely.  Pre- and post-meeting plannings and debriefs are 100% normal.

The bolded jumped out at me because it's a real flaw in how you're thinking about this - he's not her boss.  They're partners.  They're both responsible for making sure this business is profitable and it's a very different role than contributor/boss.  I'm a woman in a business partnership and I told my partner (/friend) earlier than I told my boss at my last job, because if I have complications, illness, etc. it impacts both of us.  He'll have to step up and handle things that I do for the day-to-day in a way that is very different from having an individual contributor take a week off.[/quote]

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