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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, it's pretty grueling to both work full-time and have young kids. Especially if your DH is "not flexible" (and I bet he loves for you to believe that!). You gotta have some real talk with him-- if you're going to work, he's going to have to assert himself and claim more flexibility at work, as well as pick up a LOT more of the domestic load evenings and weekends. If he's not wanting to do this, then he's going to have to accept living mostly on his income. He can't have the income of a working wife and the convenience of a SAHM at the same time.

Are you wanting a job for your own career plans, or for the money, or does he want you to work and you don't?[/quote]

Take this heart OP. I’m a working mom so haven’t experienced it first hand, but I have seen some SAH or PT working friends who have tried to ramp up once kids are in school. The dads get dollar signs in their eyes thinking about their wife taking on this new role of bringing home income. But they forget about the part where mom taking on more outside of the house = dad taking on more inside the home. So make very clear that it is not just your life changing, but his as well. It has to be a joint commitment to being a dual income household.

DH and I have been doing the dual income with kids thing for almost a decade now. He does doctors and dentist apartments, sick days, laundry, grocery shopping, etc. I know that if our situation ever did change where I could/wanted to SAH he would fully grasp the load I would take off his plate. I don’t think guys who have always had a SAH spouse appreciate the invisible things that are done for them. [/quote]

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